Comments on: The digital display of affection (DDA)

By: Eric

Eric — Thu, 29 Nov 2007 13:30:09 +0000

I know why i seldomly do it, because it’s flattering. When a community of friends is aware of someones relationship, especially at my age (17-20), they have also inferred we are affectionate. The facebook DDA to the “significant other” is a form of flattery. The individual recieving the message feels a sense of flattery, it’s psychologically true. Furthermore, unless a couple is completely accepting of explicit commentary, most relationships have their boundaries with regards to DDA.

I might here and there(bi-weekly?) remind my girlfriend i love her, and we had a great night out somewhere, but i know their’s a line that can be simply saved for a phone conversation in private.

By: mundo

mundo — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 20:18:44 +0000

Soon the reality TV will be occurring inside the firewall. Serena, a software company, has adopted Facebook as their Intranet: http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/fastforwardblog/SYEL/~3/191841479/

By: mundo

mundo — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:37:05 +0000

You can call these digital hickeys.
My kids spend a lot of time watching reality shows on MTV and similar venues. I guess exposing your personal life on the web is an inexpensive reality show.

By: Ming Kwan

Ming Kwan — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:10:24 +0000

From what I’ve seen, people take things they see on facebook very seriously. If anyone changes their relationship status, people will start posting on your wall right away to get the latest update. I feel that young people put these DDA on facebook because it reinforces, without a doubt, that they are in a relationship with that person. Since facebook connects ‘everyone to everyone’, it’s a subtle, or not so subtle way to let everyone know that you’re not available, very happy, not interested in anything else…

By: Mike Dover

Mike Dover — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 14:57:38 +0000

I actually added someone as a friend just so I could follow a bizarre argument between two brothers about how one (who, in fairness, has had a difficult life) had …on his Facebook profie…rejected the Catholic Church even though he was married in one.

It really was one of those things that should have been settled in person, but something that was bizarrely compelling to watch play out in (digital) public.

By: Leigh

Leigh — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 14:47:52 +0000

They were just making out in public.
Wait ’till they break-up and the next GF or BF get’s to read that. Then go back and ask them how they feel about it and if they would do it again…